tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post7837917428181116261..comments2023-05-18T05:07:08.737-07:00Comments on Chammak Challo: HeavyAnother Kiran In NYChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15949641865013106368noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-67456062220783413372009-04-01T13:47:00.000-07:002009-04-01T13:47:00.000-07:00I am in tears... and I can understand what all mus...I am in tears... and I can understand what all must have been going in your mind that day and ever since. You are indeed very lucky to have someone to love you unconditionally. God bless his soul and may God bless you with everlasting love and togetherness with your loved ones.Nehahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356457383586939084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-79564971100242797592009-03-28T10:40:00.000-07:002009-03-28T10:40:00.000-07:00Hang in there, Kiran. We are all blessed to have ...Hang in there, Kiran. We are all blessed to have loved...Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002754872631420601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-74621954897241914042009-03-16T09:08:00.000-07:002009-03-16T09:08:00.000-07:00thanks for givin a thought abt my questions.Bt sti...thanks for givin a thought abt my questions.Bt still i did'nt get a satisfactory answer which i was lookin for .what wd hv been ur reaction? or in tht case any married women's reaction the sympathy which u can now manage wd tht hv been same if the person was still derkuldip..the illusionisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07627920614551882399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-2247852315172144142009-03-09T09:00:00.000-07:002009-03-09T09:00:00.000-07:00Kuldip:You have good questions.About the husband k...Kuldip:<BR/>You have good questions.<BR/>About the husband knowing, he and I are both aware that we only shared time onwards from our young adulthood. We do not have a shared history in childhood and adolescence. So what happened and my relationships or lack of them before we met have nothing to do with the bond between the husband and I. He is confident in that and so am I. I think that comes from age and accompanying maturity so that we can both be reasonable and not dream up problems where none exist.<BR/><BR/>If my friend had not been so close to death I doubt if I would have ever known.<BR/><BR/>Why do I regret anything, the same reason as each one of us looks back and says, oh if only I had breakfast this morning, I wouldnt eat so much for lunch... because it is human nature to second guess ourselves. When a close friend is involved, the second guessing is just magnified.<BR/><BR/>My love for and comfort level with my friend never changed after he told me what he did. I was confused at first, but on reflection realised how lucky I was, to have such wonderful men love and care for me, so very much. That includes old boyfriends, the husband and even my friend who passed away. Each one of them is special.Another Kiran In NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15949641865013106368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-12017262399213212032009-03-06T10:30:00.000-08:002009-03-06T10:30:00.000-08:00does ur hubby read ur post ???i hope he dosen't.I ...does ur hubby read ur post ???<BR/>i hope he dosen't.<BR/>I am sure blog is not the best place to tell ur hubby about all that has happened.<BR/>well...bt still admirations for you for having such great understandig..i wish evry women has somethin to learn .<BR/>One question i can't help myself askin what would have been your reaction if the person was not counting his last days??<BR/>would u still have had regrets for same reasons .. or would the reasons change ??<BR/>i dn't know whether i am allowed to get so personel bt ill soon know.kuldip..the illusionisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07627920614551882399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-28591742329775155502009-02-22T22:19:00.000-08:002009-02-22T22:19:00.000-08:00Thanks -- the words came easily, and were clearly ...Thanks -- the words came easily, and were clearly appreciated.<BR/><BR/>[Unrelated -- Bizarrely, my word verification is "bedneal." Who is Neal?!?!]L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13437332749627332216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-79006431786568326502009-02-21T04:09:00.000-08:002009-02-21T04:09:00.000-08:00Indyeah:Thanks. we are all truly blessed to have l...Indyeah:<BR/>Thanks. we are all truly blessed to have lived and loved.<BR/><BR/>Ugich:<BR/>So true. What is, is. We deal with it and put one foot in front of the other.<BR/><BR/>Pinkdogwood:<BR/>That is truly a lesson for those of us who can make decisions between forks in the road. It is never too late.<BR/><BR/>Enchanted:<BR/>Thank you for your prayers.<BR/><BR/>Crowcious:<BR/>Yep, we dont really know ourselves sometimes, never mind knowing others.<BR/><BR/>Piper:<BR/>My heart knows the response, my head isnt there yet.<BR/><BR/>Gauri:<BR/>So true about the heart having infinte capacity to love in different ways. And yes, the head knows that things always look rosy in retrospect. But the heart doesnt want to agree with that always.<BR/><BR/>Solilo:<BR/>Thanks for your prayers.<BR/><BR/>Asaan:<BR/>I dont know the answer to that either... to mention it or not.<BR/><BR/>Rahul:<BR/>Thanks for your prayers.<BR/><BR/>Renu:<BR/>It ia a comfort sometimes to think that what happens is due to some higher design. Always a mystery. Thanks for your prayers.<BR/><BR/>Neeraj:<BR/>11 years old is when we are all happy :)<BR/><BR/>Heartcrossings:<BR/>Welcome to my blog comments. I think he knows. I dont know how to say it.<BR/><BR/>L:<BR/>Welcome to my blog comments. I hope the words came easily for your friend.Another Kiran In NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15949641865013106368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-70793540883566427952009-02-19T19:33:00.000-08:002009-02-19T19:33:00.000-08:00Made me cry.And made me resolve to tell a (healthy...Made me cry.<BR/>And made me resolve to tell a (healthy) male friend what your friend told you.L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13437332749627332216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-23927399766899922882009-02-19T15:47:00.000-08:002009-02-19T15:47:00.000-08:00Such a bitter-sweet story of old love ! He is luck...Such a bitter-sweet story of old love ! He is lucky that he could tell you how he felt - not everyone can. It is great burden lifted from the heart. I would encourage you to tell him how you feel - I have more than one regret about not saying it when I could and never finding another chance.Heartcrossingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11611681863892546438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-285171501255135552009-02-17T22:57:00.000-08:002009-02-17T22:57:00.000-08:00...now i know why u wanted to go back to your 11 y......now i know why u wanted to go back to your 11 year old days. ( very sad to know this ). But like always.... life gives us so much and take them away as well.neeraj_onlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16411312136744537313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-23641166354727178612009-02-17T20:03:00.000-08:002009-02-17T20:03:00.000-08:00very touching post. i always believe that whatever...very touching post. i always believe that whatever happens..happens for the best, god knows about us and what is good for us, better than we. May god bless you all !Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-52438738052862841342009-02-17T17:25:00.000-08:002009-02-17T17:25:00.000-08:00First time after many days I am out of words ........First time after many days I am out of words ..... Sorry for the same !!<BR/><BR/>Stay Blessed ...... Take Care KiranRahul Viswanathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06063750270954817311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-1895225265713786562009-02-17T13:48:00.000-08:002009-02-17T13:48:00.000-08:00My first thought was what good would it do for you...My first thought was what good would it do for your dh to know about his feelings about you.<BR/>Then I thought why should I hide it?<BR/><BR/>I dont have any words of wisdom for you, Big hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-25729480896016674502009-02-17T13:31:00.000-08:002009-02-17T13:31:00.000-08:00Heavy. Reading this has left me without words. May...Heavy. Reading this has left me without words. May god bless you all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-42281975635972559862009-02-17T11:59:00.000-08:002009-02-17T11:59:00.000-08:00That's one of the reasons the heart has more t...That's one of the reasons the heart has more than just one compartment. Some people, some relations, some moments, are meant to be cherished in a unique way. They don't need label. This is something very special that only you two share - and it's going to be a part of you forever. No one can take that away from you. <BR/><BR/>As for regret, it's certainly allowed, but what purpose will it serve? He sees you happy. You know you're happy. Yes, things could have been different - but it's only in retrospect and imagination that they look rosy. And you'd probably be in even more pain if you were by his bedside when things had, in fact been different. <BR/><BR/>A touching post. God bless you & yours.<BR/><BR/>-gAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-13257224783141422102009-02-17T11:48:00.000-08:002009-02-17T11:48:00.000-08:00wow! that was indeed 'heavy' as the title suggests...wow! that was indeed 'heavy' as the title suggests! I wonder what would be an appropriate way for you to respond to him, if there is any. I wonder how difficult it must be for you, to live with this truth.. <BR/>A very touching post!Piper ..https://www.blogger.com/profile/02315500028808314079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-14853044201860178462009-02-17T08:27:00.000-08:002009-02-17T08:27:00.000-08:00This is so sad.. But no one really knows the other...This is so sad.. But no one really knows the other person you know, however long they are ur best friend. How much do your friends really know you? Like, the most inner part of you? It's good that you are there for him and I'm sure he knows that :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-56823318119241428792009-02-16T14:07:00.000-08:002009-02-16T14:07:00.000-08:00I am so sorry to hear about this. Will pray to God...I am so sorry to hear about this. Will pray to God to give you strength to deal with this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-2374911515417631162009-02-16T05:08:00.000-08:002009-02-16T05:08:00.000-08:00I am so sorry to hear about your friend.how he reg...I am so sorry to hear about your friend.<BR/><BR/><I>how he regrets not taking the path less travelled</I> - now here is a lesson for all of us.<BR/><BR/>Stay Strong!pink dogwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00938574807898718022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-90359929474229627722009-02-16T00:51:00.000-08:002009-02-16T00:51:00.000-08:00What is, is. And it remains between you and him an...What is, is. And it remains between you and him and never dies. He is s lucky man to have you there now, and will go away in peace when the time comes. They both enrich you. Be grateful and smile.Ugich Konitarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901335427613806798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1939408516379764979.post-91515901683514240072009-02-15T22:36:00.000-08:002009-02-15T22:36:00.000-08:00don't have words left to write after reading this....don't have words left to write after reading this....so will just say,God bless you and your loved ones and may god bless your friend ...Indyeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05915739361027887530noreply@blogger.com