Thursday, June 25, 2009

Male privilege and the little boy

Recently, Son who is a newly minted 5 year old has been flexing his independence and big boy attitude and defiance quite a bit. It has been quite irritating, but apart from minor corrections, I was hoping for this phase to blow over. Things like this usually do.

This morning at the breakfast table, Son was being extremely uncooperative and quite rude to me and Daughter. Milk and cereal was being spilled, shins were being kicked by excessive swinging of legs, and general defiance was being displayed. Ofcourse I got quite annoyed and told him off. I said that only polite kids were welcome at the table and I expected better behavior from him, since he was a big boy now after his 5th birthday.

He puffed up his puny chest, crossed his arms over his stomach, squinted his eyes and in a very low and growly voice said "But Mom I am male and I can behave like that".

Ofcourse I had to lecture him about how Daddy is a man too and Daddy is very polite. And have you seen any other men we know behave rudely? He listened and we went on to do our morning routine like normal. I hope what I said stuck in his head somewhere.

Where did he learn this from? This very equal opportunity, very liberal home of mine, has no boorish male role models. I cannot imagine his friend's homes being full of rude men. Is this from TV? Where is this from?

I think Daddy needs to have a man to man talk with him!


neeraj_only said...

'This' at this age and that too when he has you as mother :)
i know he will understand things soon .....

Still thinking said...

Maybe he was just trying his luck to get away with it? Not with this mama on board! :)

memsaab said...

video games? television? cartoons? the world is full of belligerent males! and I'm glad Son has a good Mom and a good Dad to be better role models for him :-)

Indyeah said...

Who knows where kids pick up these things from?
the good thing is that he has you both at home ..he will learn and understand....

Aneela Z said...

i was never one for biological determinism but I have seriously started believing in the recessive (male) gene.

Miss Cynical ღ Åйu ღ said...

'm glad hes in the age where he'd still be listening; teenagers having this attitude is worse and grown ups worst!

Another Kiran In NYC said...

Yeah, I have hope for him :)

Still Thinking:
Yeah he sure is intent on reaching for the farthest boundries of my patience.

Does spongebob count as a role model?

From your mouth to gods ears :) He will learn.

As you will soon find out boys are something else all together. Biological determinism is alive and well in some ways. But they do tell me that Boys are easier at Puberty than girls are!